Sunday, April 20, 2014

Family Life & Marriage: Some Myths

In modern world women are nip and tuck with men. And very often it is the woman who is a breadwinner, head and support of the family. Sometimes she is even a defender. As she has to deal with school problems, services and so on. According to some researches we can make such conclusions:

- Relations of equality become a dominate tendency.

- The matter of the family head transforms into the problem of leadership.

- The man often is a formal head of the family, just because of the tradition.

- According to surveys, in every fifth family a woman is head and in every sixth a man is.

- There is a process of active feminization of modern family. A woman occupies more often a leading position in a family. She controls the family budget for example.

- The woman-mother has a leading role in up-bringing children.

- The woman is often a housekeeper; it means that she allocates duties about the house among all family members.

Statistics and facts are a very much stubborn things. You should understand that everything you wait for is in the past and it is important to find new ways in relations. So now let’s speak about relations themselves.

What does the modern woman wait from the marriage?

Myth #1. Find a couple and happiness in marriage are super ideas for many people. The woman waits from marriage some fairy tale and her wishes coming true.

It is a great delusion. First of all, there is nothing magic in life together. It is life, it is different, sometimes it is happy and sometimes it is a problem. It is just life together. Think over these words. There is a deep sense in them. Life together means to live and to save your inner space and inner world; it also means to share it with a partner.

Life together doesn’t cancel the values of every partner tasks, his dreams and desires. If you live together you have to help each other to make life more full, conscious and happy.

Myth #2. Many women’s expectations are often bounded with the desire of understanding and full division of emotions. They say, “We should be extremely open with each other”. It is the second delusion. The extremely openness looks like life under the bright light of projector. It’s impossible to live in bright light all the time, you will begin to feel tired and annoyed. So the second thing to realize is to give some freedom to each other in family life.

Myth #3. One more stumbling block is a woman’s desire that man should solve all matters. But when he starts to solve them of course in his own way, there is a storm. If the rights to make decisions are in the man’s hands you have to obey them. It is an important thing to be consistent in the relations.

Myth #4. Women link a desire of security with marriage. It touches the property and social position. But even so they feel shy to discuss financial conditions of the marriage. Some women are afraid of marital agreement. Hypocrisy which is involved in a fairy tale about romantic love will prevent to build honest partner relations. It is important to discuss such questions if you are going to live together and to born children. You must discuss all the things that are really important, because, meal, clothes, sport and some other things are really important for our life. Every woman should speak about them with her husband, not with friends or somebody else.

What should you do?

The first variant:

You can remain a staunch supporter of traditional patriarchal relations between a woman and a man. At least you will meet your man of course. But if you real life will differ from a fairy tale you will see in marriage.

The second variant:

- You should get up of sweet dreams about past and to look bravely to the changing world.

- Try to separate social attitudes and mass hysteria from the world of your own desires and views about modern relations between man and woman.

- It is important to define your expectations from the relations with man, which will answer your real requests.

- For harmonic relations of two personalities it is necessary to understand that you mustn’t think that another person is your property.

- Remember that you never live with the same person you were married to. He will be constantly changing. Women have identity crisis not as often as men.

So as you can see, it is really important to understand the reality of family life and marriage. Of course every person will have his own problems and joys, but the general problem is the same for all. We do not think about the real things and problems before marriage and wedding.

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Monday, April 14, 2014

Tips to Get Your Family 9-1-1 Ready

Is your family 9-1-1 ready? 5 Smart 9-1-1 Tips
April is 9-1-1 Education month and a great reminder to discuss calling 9-1-1 with your family. It isn't enough to teach your children how to dial 9-1-1. To ensure you get the fastest and most efficient response from 9-1-1, include the five following smart 9-1-1 tips.

1. Call only in the event of a real emergency. You should call 9-1-1 in any serious situation where a law enforcement officer, fire fighter, or emergency medical help is needed right away. If you are unsure of whether your situation is an emergency, call 9-1-1. The 9-1-1 call taker can determine if you need emergency assistance and can route you to the correct location.

2. Know your location. Your location is the most important piece of information you can offer to 9-1-1 call takers. Currently, mobile phone calls to 9-1-1 only provide a general location, not an exact address. By providing the exact location of the incident, first responders will know where to respond. If you are unsure of your address, describe your surroundings and use landmarks to help them locate you.

3. DON'T hang up. Stay on the line and tell the call taker your call was an accident so they can record it in their system. If you hang up before speaking to them, 9-1-1 won't know whether you are in danger or need assistance and will automatically dispatch help to check on the situation. This can waste valuable resources for other people who are experiencing emergencies.

4. Pay attention to the questions asked and speak clearly. Calling 9-1-1 in an emergency situation can be very stressful and cause you to panic. It is important to listen carefully to the call taker's questions and provide information as it is requested. Even if you feel that you have repeated yourself, the call taker must ask questions to verify the accuracy of the information and can better assist as soon as they are answered.

5. Create and maintain a Smart911 Safety Profile. Visit to give 9-1-1 valuable information about yourself, family members, your home, pets, and even vehicles that will automatically display on the 9-1-1 call taker's screen when you make an emergency call. It's private and secure and you control what information is in your profile. These details can save valuable seconds or even minutes during an emergency.

Remember these tips and celebrate 9-1-1 Education month at to be better prepared for any emergency your family may face.

Katharine Farrell helps citizens be smart about safety and educates communities nationwide about the importance of creating a Smart911 Safety Profile.

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Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Mass Shootings, Suicides, and Mental Health

If you have been following the news, even casually, I think you know about a very sad tragedy. It is a tragedy that is like others of its kind, unfortunately. It is an indictment of our society. It should serve as a wake-up call to all of us. This includes the family, the Church, schools, the medical and health professions, the government, indeed to all of us. I'm talking about another senseless act of violence that was absolutely preventable. Like so many others of its kind, it should never have happened in the first place. But it continues to happen, over and over. What explains that?

Fort Hood Devastation

So What Is the Big Deal About Psychotropic Medications?

Yes, these tragedies usually bring out dialogues about mental health, the mental health issues of perpetrators of these mass shootings, the call to ban the gun rights of anyone with suspected or diagnosed mental heath illnesses, and the call to increase mental health issues. I heartily agree with each of these measures. The stigma of mental illness needs to go so that its victims and their families will willingly seek treatment. The government, instead of cutting funds for mental health services, need to expand these services. Parents, teachers, and indeed all of us, need to educate ourselves about mental health, suicide, and take depression seriously when it is suspected or diagnosed. But with all this, it is a fact that often the cure can be worse than the treatment, especially when it is overdone. This is where psychiatric meds come in and the need to address their abuse and overuse. Doctors tend to use medicine as an easy route to address anything that is considered medical. Big Pharma is prospering nicely and making millions off the backs of addicts to prescription drugs and others who may also be their victims. Doctors are making Big Pharma wealthy with their penchant to prescribe medications. This includes psychiatrists, who tend to freely place patients on meds to "calm them down" and to bring them "happiness in a bottle." Now I'm not against taking medication to address mental health issues, if used properly and in people whose systems can handle them! In many mental heath cases or Neurodevelopmental especially Bipolar Disorder, Schizophrenia, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), meds can mean the difference between a full, productive life or one lived on the fringes of society, in an institution, jail, or prison. Yet we know that these psychiatric meds can have serious side effects, not only in children and teens and the elderly, but also in certain "nonvulnerable" adults whose systems can't handle them for some reason.

My Experience and That of Others

I can, sadly, testify from experience as to how harmful these prescription medications can be. My situation was not a military one, but it still is one where I had to deal with the mental health system. As a middle to late teen, I was sent to psychiatrists to justify the funding for the kind of special education that I received. These doctors concluded that the heart of my difficulties was "anxiety neurosis" and they had just the cure for my "illness." I became quite a cash cow for Big Pharma at this time in my life. My parents did not see that these psychiatrists were helping me, but as the autism spectrum diagnosis did not exist, they, my teachers, and my doctors had no idea that maybe they were dealing with undiagnosed autism spectrum disorder. At the time, I was also placed on anti-convulsants, which I use to this day. Then, these doctors placed me on multiple anti-anxiety medications, which included Valium and Haldol. Almost from the beginning, these meds took effect on me. These effects were not good! I experienced bizarre effects with my eyes moving upward in their sockets, and both adults and my peers treated my reaction like attention-getting, deviant behavior, and treated me accordingly. I became a "monster" and a person that no one knew. My entire personality charged and my mental faculties were radically altered. I became hostile, aggressive, profane, and exhibitionistic. Of course, except for my immediate family and teacher, all others reacted with hostility and rejection, blaming me instead of the meds I was placed on. I was in and out of a psychiatric hospital. It was all a total nightmare. It took Mom to wean me off the meds. Fast-forward to about ten years ago. My late grandmother became depressed. She was, like me, sent to psychiatrists. They placed her on different meds, including Ambien. They made her even more depressed, and one tragic morning, she left our home in her nightgown and the local train hit her. She was treated in the hospital, and after a number of days, she passed away. She, too, was a cash cow for Big Pharma. Years ago, I read a sad story about a 12-year-old boy who killed both his grandparents; his defense was that he was put on Zoloft and that it put him over the edge. The Fort Hood Shooting: Did Big Pharma Play A Part?

Currently, there is an active investigation going on in the case of the recent Fort Hood shooting. There are many factors that no doubt played a part in pushing Lopez over the edge, causing him to "snap." A history of mental health problems. Possible PTSD. Easy access to a shotgun. Escalating arguments with other soldiers. Depression and hopelessness. He clearly felt alienated from society. Is is documented that his latest Facebook status reflects that. But not to be overlooked is that he was on multiple prescription meds. By themselves, they may not have made Lopez snap. But clearly, his anti-anxiety medications were not having their desired effect! They did the exact opposite of calming him down. This gunman was a cash cow for Big Pharma. His meds played a part in helping to destroy the lives of four people and forever alter the lives of many others. If his medications were supposed to help him, why didn't they calm him down and hinder his aggressive tendencies? We may not have the answer to these questions for a long time. In our dialogue on mental health, we can't leave out the proper use of prescription medications.

Agree? Disagree?

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

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